I'd like to say that that evening shouldn't have ended that way.
You both are right about certain things, and all 3 (here i mean on ulthuan too) need to learn to "shut the fuck up"
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As raid leader with years of experience, i learned that stupid wipes can be very frustrating and demotivating.
It took me far more time to realise that after such events ppl need a few motivational words to get the focus back and do things right (i was going really emo, kicking ppl from raid even guild at start...).
If the problem isnt obvious, we should try to isolate it and have next try, if its obvious we need to be sure ppl involved in mistake realise it so it doesnt happend again.
We wiped, so what, we'll wipe thousand times more, but we should do our best to have ppl focused so the wipes dont happend on farmable bosses.
usage of separate chat channels for class or role specific instructions is very beneficial.
we have channels like DPriests, DHealers
at that point we didn't have DPaladins (now athom made it, and as new players get used to it, you'll have all the buffs u need not even seeing any instruction on raid chat)
DPriests channel is used same way (hope Rhona will join it soon tho <3
DHealers is channel for all healers and raid leader, there we do healing assignments
Creating separate chat window where u have raid chat and those channels will only give u more focus on important so ure not distracted by guildchat, general chat crap and even whispers if u decide so.
So the obvious benefits are :
We do not interfere with raid chat so raid leader can use it to highlight important informations
We do not get distracted
Specific instructions are easy to find since this chat buffer doesnt get overwritten by irrelevant crap for other chat channels
So on that raid, Ulthuan should have simply write :
/DPaladins All put Fire Aura up!!
On the other hand we had interference and distraction that caused Main tank to die coz 3 paladins didnt start to heal but focused on something that should have already been resolved.
Anyways, i agree that what followed was really demotivating and lasted too long, there was 22 ppl listening to 3 others yelling at each other, some not even having a clue whats happening (coz of the language).
The day ended without a kill and whats much worse with 2 ppl leaving.
For the sake of good guild and raid atmosphere this shouldnt be happening, and by that i mean fights during the raid especially (whatever the reason is). Other people came to raid ang have fun, and the last thing they want is listening to fights and argues.
Constructive and calm approach will, i'm sure result in much more fun, more focus and more attendance.
In the end, i would be really happy if you guys could work it out, so we can continue to play together, instead of being shattered arround in greedy guilds with no values for friendship.
Peace <3